My father packed a gun, my mother didn't allow cussing. She would get frustrated and put boxing gloves on us and put us out in the yard. I gave my boys nerf weapons and put them in the yard. I admit to having a machete that is the same size as my laser short sword in space.
As long as there are individuals, groups and nations who will take what they want when they want there will be a place for warriors like your husband. I deeply honor protectors, defenders [especially of children and elders]. I do not honor invaders. I do understand that if you go back far enough in the story, you find the ones complaining the loudest now usually started hostilities.
Also, many groups have been set against each other by scarcity mindsets. They don't just want enough, they want to have some to hoard. And this mindset has been used to control us. To divide us and keep us at each other's throats. There are different mindsets that accompany that--some are family oriented and others are ethnic group oriented and still others are nation oriented. All contribute to ongoing hostilities.
As an 'other' in the religion dept, I grew up in the Church of Christ--the version that doesn't let women talk. It's a different belief structure but is basically an Amish lite. Since my speech was suppressed so long, I tend to respect the right to free speech. Just be responsible for the harm you cause too.
What we have noticed in the groups on FB is that the religious groups with more controlling behaviors have the highest incidences of SSP folks regaining memories. Church of Christ, especially the 'anti' groups, Mormons, Seventh Day Adventist, Jehovah's Witness, Southern Baptist and all the Pentecostal groups have high representation in the FB SSP and supersoldier veterans groups. That cannot be an accident.